The Consequence of Choice guides us through a unique exploration of relationship conflicts, viewed through women’s romantic decisions and their desired outcomes. It also examines how men interpret women’s choices, whether men’s reactions are instinctive, and how their actions often fail to align with the ideal goals women pursue.

The author, Bernard R. Pilgrim, who has been married for twenty-six years, believes that by critically examining our assumptions about dating, relationships, and marriage, we can gain a deeper understanding and more effectively embrace fidelity and intimacy. Making our dating choices based on reality rather than unrealistic expectations can help us avoid negative consequences. 

• “Chivalry wasn’t about you; you reaped the benefits of it. It was about training men to see you not just as a sexual conquest but as wives and mothers of their children.”

• “You’ve always been complete as women, never lacking in anything. Your divine feminine purpose was, and still is, to inspire men to protect and serve those they love.”

• Men are not dogs. You can’t buy their loyalty and love. Your sexual treats might temporarily hypnotize men. However, their financial generosity could be purely transactional. Sex in exchange for monetary gifts. 

• We are responsible for all the choices we make and the potential outcomes, and we shouldn’t blame others for our failures.

• “If most of the men you’ve dated have treated you as one-night stands, friends with benefits, or placeholders, and none have committed to you in marriage, your dating/relationship market value may be limited to sex in their eyes.”

• “Lamentably, if all we have in our relationships is Netflix and chill, then we have nothing.”