The Genesis of My Literary Endeavor

Sometime between 2018 and 2019, I recorded my persistent thoughts about relationship issues that I believed both men and women misunderstood because poorly guided relationship doctrines were being passed off as truths. I just wanted to get those nagging thoughts out of my mind and forget about them. It was the same approach I used as a musician: when you have a melody stuck in your head, you record it and move on.

A few years later, I realized that the topics I wrote about regarding women’s romantic choices and how men interpret their romantic interests were now being discussed in social circles, not by those who had been successfully married, but by those who are single, in and out of relationships, or in “situationships” that haven’t matured into marriage, offering advice.

I moved to New York in 1999, and it took me some time to adjust to my new, constantly changing reality: a melting pot of cultures with many unwritten rules that must be navigated carefully and patiently to avoid offending anyone’s racial, religious, sexual, or cultural sensitivities. Over the years, this wave of social issues has compelled society to confront its inner demons in meaningful ways.

In relationships, a few topics have consistently caused concern and confusion for me: the confusion surrounding women’s rights—that they shouldn’t have to beg for—and the new, uncharted, and undefined roles women are now expected to play in their relationships and marriages, as well as the neglected true purpose of men in their lives and relationships.

As I examined and sought answers to these relationship issues, I realized that if women rediscover their inner strength by acknowledging who they are and redefining their responsibilities and purpose within their relationships, they will no longer be overshadowed by society’s misguided ideas. Then, and only then, will they be ready to fight and reclaim the mantle of power their predecessors once abandoned, which is their God-given, intelligently designed, socially assigned role as influential moral leaders.

This neglected moral leadership of women has always served as a source of inspiration or spiritual justification for men’s servitude. Yes, I said men’s servitude, which involves honoring and protecting those they love with their lives—an act that holds no greater calling in the realm of men.

If you are religious, the serpent in the Garden of Eden didn’t target Eve because she was the weaker vessel; he targeted her because she had the power of influence. He knew Adam, who was standing with her at the Tree of Life, would follow her beyond the gates of death, and he did—thanks to the power of her influence.