Over the years, women have often fought and died for what they believed was their God-given rights:

• To be free from oppression

• To pursue purpose and plot new destinies

• To be in control of their bodies

• To decide whom, they could love and marry

• To vote and to receive equal pay

• To have access to health care, including reproductive rights

• To be protected against sexual harassment

At some point during the quest for those liberties, some women started to believe that part of being in control of their bodies and their sexual freedom meant having the right to participate in what they perceived as men’s sexually illicit promiscuity. This perception was not entirely their fault; instead, it was a result of wars, politics, economics, and changes in norms, spirituality, and cultural beliefs. However, sexually acting like men is a fallacy, a misconception, a misguided delusion, and a false narrative. “Well, if men can sleep around, we can do it too.”

Sexual Truth

This misguided belief unintentionally introduced a cultural change into society, turning courting, dating, sex, and relationships into a game or a sport. This is where all the conflicts lie within the spectrum of relationship confusion —the gray area.

If you ask any man who’s had thirty sexual partners how many women he has been with sexually, he’ll tell you that number or even more.

However, if you ask a woman that same question, in most cases, she’ll say,

“I’ve only slept with three guys; I’m not a whore.”

Women claim that if men can do it, they can too. Yet they hide the truth about their sexual liaisons because they’re either ashamed, don’t want people to view them as promiscuous, or don’t want to suffer the painful feeling of being slut shamed. Maybe that awful feeling is their conscience, spirit, or woman’s intuition.

The Cost

Women say they want men with sexual experience to pleasure them in bed. But, like everything else, it comes at a cost, and it’s that emotional cost many women are not prepared to pay. With the acceptance of the false narrative of having the right to act like men sexually, women inadvertently gave up their influential power and ability to guide men to see them as more than sexually desired creatures.

This transgression unwittingly opened the floodgates, allowing men to have casual sexual encounters with as many consenting women as humanly possible. Unfortunately, this newfound pleasurable reality led men down a path that transformed their nature into a ravenous, unquenched, sexually promiscuous corruption that has profoundly deceived men into no longer associating sex with love, fidelity, or commitment.

“But I still don’t want a man who can’t sexually please me, and I don’t have the time or patience to teach a man how to.”

Sexual Experience

Please do me the honor of enlightening me about how a man becomes excellent sexually. 

What! You don’t know?

Then let me humbly inform you about how a man becomes excellent in bed sexually. It’s through practice, the habitual act of having sex repeatedly with as many willing partners as humanly possible.

I know you may not want to hear this, or it may seem overly real to you, but men become great at sex by having sex with as many willing partners as possible.

For some strange reason, you believe the men who rock your world sexually, who’ve been habitually sleeping around with multiple women, will miraculously change and stop being promiscuous and become faithful and committed to you because you’ve developed intimate feelings. You’ve allowed your romantic delusion to convince you they’re the ones you’ve been waiting for, your soul mate, your knight in shining armor. Seriously, what the hell?

Love, Fidelity, and Commitment

Here’s a gospel of relationship truth that no one may have ever told you: Love, fidelity, commitment, values, and morals aren’t biologically, spiritually, or mechanically engineered.

These characteristics are behavioral traits acquired through observing family values and norms, which become firmly established within a person’s mental construct through continued practice within a family structure.

You, however, have been falsely led to believe that when you engage in an intimate sexual relationship, your partner automatically becomes faithful and committed to you. This false doctrine is a lie from the pit of all that is unholy.

When a man or woman needs more discipline in how to honor and practice the principles of love, honor, respect, and fidelity throughout their lives, they will be incapable of celebrating their love for you by being faithful and committed in a relationship or marriage. They may give you the shirt off their back or even their last dollar, but they will still find themselves sleeping around with other people.

“But why?”

I’m glad you asked.

Learned Behavior

The environments they grew up in never taught them how to connect the dots of associating sex with love, sex with fidelity, or sex with commitment within relationships. They’re habitually doing the things they identify with and have done throughout all their past and present relationships.

These individuals will never be faithful to you; they’ll continually cheat because they were led astray from that path long ago, which connected love, fidelity, commitment, and sex. However, the lack of those values in your partner’s life isn’t why your relationships have failed; it’s not even the fact that their infidelities ruin your relationships. Once again, it’s you.

“What the hell? How is this our fault, too?”

You’re the ones who keep choosing not to vet the men you share your lives with and the men you allow to enjoy the sweet nectar of your bodies.

What was that word I asked you to remember?

Oh yeah, choice!