Women say chivalry is dead; that’s because you killed it. 

“I know, I know, off with his head.”

Let’s take a different approach to this controversial subject.

Chivalry among men evolved as a natural response to how women valued, presented, and epitomized themselves by humbly displaying their values and self-worth to the world. This allowed men to see them as precious creatures, a prize worthy of their protection, respect, honor, and commitment. The gallantry of chivalry offered a window—a front-row seat — into the souls of men, revealing how they saw or felt about women. Men, led by a sense of politeness and gentility, willingly and without fear expressed their deep emotions through acts of kindness and appreciation toward women. Opening doors and giving up their seats or positions prioritized a woman’s safety and security over their own comfort.

But chivalry wasn’t about you, even though you reaped the benefits of it. It was about the training of men to evolve into seeing you not just as sexual beings to be conquered but as potential wives and cherished, equal members of society, which allowed men to have that correct, positive response toward women previously discussed.

However, men’s perspectives changed once organizations decided men’s considerations toward women were unequal treatment, a sign of feminine weakness, and sexism.

Men require laws, principles, and a disciplined structure to channel their natural capabilities and aggression constructively, benefiting their families, villages, and communities. Men need to operate in a structured environment that forces them to habitually repeat the same process to become better, stronger, faster, and more proficient at whatever skill set they want to perfect.

This process of self-discipline directly relates to what I mentioned earlier, so please forgive me for sounding like a broken record. Love, fidelity, commitment, and gratitude are habitually learned behaviors and are not automatic.

Demanding them from men you haven’t vetted will always be an impossible or fictitious dream; it’s like trying to get water from a damn rock.

Some women believe they can’t raise their sons to be men; this is an absolute lie from the pits of all that is unholy. For thousands of years, mothers understood their role in laying a foundation that imprinted their family’s morals and values into their sons’ hearts and minds so that, when they came of age to be instructed by their fathers, they would be able to see women as the following:

• As mothers, daughters, wives, and fortresses of love, kindness, comfort, and peace, and worthy of their love, honor, and the utmost respect and dignity.

• As the most valued commodity within their village, as equal partners and providers, capable of managing every aspect of their family’s lives..