You need to understand that men don’t play sports or games with any emotional attachment. Men often view sports or games as battles they fight with rage, aggression, and a reckless, dogmatic abandonment of self-preservation, leaving them devoid of sympathy for their opponents.

Unfortunately, this lack of attachment in some men can lead them to unconsciously venture into the realm of hate and uncontrollable anger, which can produce an abusive permissive dispensation, leading them to become mentally and physically abusive toward their relationship partners. This disassociation is why some men can have numerous sexual affairs or liaisons with multiple women and walk away without emotional or psychological attachment.

When society allowed dating to turn into a competitive sport, men adopted a sexual animalistic nature, voiding them of their naturally positive response toward women, aided by the conscious decision of women to act like men sexually.

Unfortunately, men started treating women like men, as enemy combatants, with only one goal: to win sexually at every encounter. Now we’re reaping the consequences of those actions; an unseen wound society has left unchecked and festering—the destruction of relationships and marriages.

Men don’t care about other men’s feelings and emotions; they tease each other until it intensely hurts. Have you ever watched a boxing match where the animosity between the fighters is palpable, and it appears they’re trying to kill each other with every punch?

However, as soon as the fight ends, all the hostility and anger subside; they hug each other, show concern, and move on like nothing ever happened. That’s because it wasn’t about any emotional attachment; it was all about aggression and passion, the pride and joy of winning.

Traditionally, the masculine nature compels men to fight, hunt, and kill, and to refocus quickly for the next battle. This emotional abandonment is why men and women often struggle to play sports together effectively. Instinctively, men will try to crush their opponents at all costs; they may change their aggressive tactics if their opponents are women, but eventually, they’ll do the same things they do to their male counterparts. So, what makes you think you’ll ever win in this sport of sex and dating against men?

You’ll sexually and emotionally lose every single time, without fail. You may think you’re winning because you’ve been benefitting financially or because you’re the one who ends the relationship, but that’s not winning. The men you’ve slept with are now a permanent sexual fixture in the fabric of your mental and emotional construct as they casually move on to their next sexual conquest.

The strategic way men play this sport of sex and dating is to have as many sexual encounters as possible without emotional attachments, relationship labels, or commitments. In most cases, men don’t even know they’re playing the game. They have somehow been taught that their behavior is their birthright and who they are, yet they’re unaware that their conduct is a deception that has become an accepted truth.

Men learned long ago and continue to be taught by the reaffirming actions and the messages by some women within society that women are only attracted to men for what they possess and not for who they are.

Some women consider men’s inner characteristics, such as kindness, patience, and financial responsibility, to be weak, cheap, and dull. So, men, aware of this fact, have accepted that having glamorous materialistic objects like wealth, fame, and power will attract women like moths to a flame; thus, they proudly and boastfully use these tools to achieve their sexual goals.

You need to understand that men will help you pay your bills or even take care of all your financial needs as long as they can have sex with you on their terms. Their financial or romantic gifts don’t signify they love or care about you or will claim you as theirs; it’s just part of the sport of sex and dating.

Too often, women find themselves in a delusional state where they believe they’re in relationships with a certain caliber of men; however, in the sport of sex and dating, they’re being used sexually. This outlook may seem misogynistic, but you need to take your blinders off to this reality. You have been playing this game of sex and dating by using your superficial beauty and the promise of sexual pleasure to achieve your idealistic romantic relationship goals, but, honestly, how has this sexual game worked out for you so far?

• You’ve amassed lots of dates and one-night stands that led nowhere.

• You’ve wasted years in long-term, dead-end relationships.

• There’s no indication there will be a future engagement or marriage proposal.

• You’re constantly in and out of meaningless relationships because you desperately don’t want to be alone.

• You’ve had unplanned, unwanted, out-of-wedlock pregnancies.

• You’ve been forced to decide whether to have an abortion or give a child up for adoption.

• You’ve raised fatherless children or experienced the mental anguish of not knowing who your children’s biological fathers are.

• You’re always depressed and dreadfully encumbered with internal guilt,the embarrassment of allowing yourself to be sexually used, and forced into carrying that heavy pain of regret into each new relationship.

• You’re engaging in or being trapped in transactional relationships to maintain a lifestyle beyond your financial capability.

• You’re older and still trying to compete with younger, more attractive women, and feeling emotional bitterness, leading to the arrogant thoughts of “I don’t need a man; I’m an independent woman; men can’t handle me.”

Should I go on? Or maybe I’m being a bit presumptuous.

You’re probably getting everything you desire. You may even think the passion between you and your lover is love. However, what you’re undoubtedly experiencing is just the natural rhythm and dance of the game.