Chivalry among men evolved into a natural response to how women valued, presented, and epitomized themselves by humbly displaying their values and self-worth to the world. This allowed men to see them as precious creatures, a prize worthy of their protection, respect, honor, and commitment.
The gallantry of chivalry offered a window or a front-row seat into the souls of men, revealing how men saw or felt about women. Men, led by a sense of politeness and gentility, willingly and without fear expressed their deep emotions through acts of kindness and appreciation toward women. Opening doors and giving up their seats or positions placed a woman’s safety and security before their comfort.

But chivalry wasn’t about you, even though you reaped the benefits of it. It was about the training of men to evolve into seeing you not just as sexual beings to be conquered but as potential wives and cherished, equal members of society, which allowed men to have that correct positive response toward women. However, men’s perspectives changed once organizations decided men’s considerations toward women were unequal treatment, a sign of feminine weakness, and sexism.

Men require laws, principles, and a disciplined structure to focus their natural capabilities and aggression constructively to benefit their families, villages, and communities. Men need to operate in a structured environment that forces them to habitually repeat the same process to become better, stronger, faster, and more proficient at whatever skill set they want to perfect.
This process of self-disciple goes directly to the heart of what I declared earlier, so please forgive me for sounding like a broken record player repeating the same song. Love, fidelity, commitment, and gratitude are habitually learned behaviors and are not automatic, and demanding them from men you haven’t vetted will always be an impossible or fictitious dream; it’s like trying to get water from a damn rock…